happybujopng:

Lightning was A+++

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thebootydiaries:

Tears fill my eyes as I read the words on my screen. The world seems to stop spinning for the slightest second as I re-read the anonymous message over and over again, gripping on to the hope that the words will magically disappear. But they didn’t. Anon had done it; they’d figured out that the only way to make me take off my hijab was to call my hair ugly. My one weakness.

A tear streams down my left cheek.

Eight years of academy hijab training…wasted. I had to prove this extremely relevant and good-looking anonymous person wrong, I cared too much about what they thought. How could I live my life knowing that there is one person out there who thinks probably my hair is ugly maybe? How could I look myself in the mirror? How could I face my family? My shoulders shook as I cried silently, and my chair squeaked ever so slightly at the vibrations; as if it, too, was crying in sorrow.

It wasn’t until that moment that the second part of the message dawned on me… how would I prove them wrong without breaking the rules? Was it really against the rules? I reach into my hijab and pull out a scroll. At the very top, in cursive jet-black inked letters, the word ‘Rules’ stares back at me. My heart is racing as my eyes frantically read the scroll.

‘Rule #1: no killing people,’ it reads. I let out a whimper. There go my evening plans. 

Suddenly, my eye catches the next words. The scroll is rustling in my trembling hands as I turn my face away, tears spraying out of my eyes like the spit of a white person as they try to justify racism. The cursive words felt more like a curse of words, vivid and refusing to disappear as if I were still staring at them even through my closed eyes.

Rule #2: don’t show ur hair girl it’s ugly lmaooooo

smolbakedpopato:

flavoracle:

queensugardaily:

Bonus:

SO MUCH THIS!!

When helping kids learn from their mistakes and correcting past behavior, it’s important for parents and other role models to separate what they DID, and who they ARE.

Look at the exchange in the images above. The kid apologizes for “being bad,” and the adult points out that it isn’t a question of “being.” It’s about specific behavior.

“Definitely was acting brand new. But you ain’t got a bad bone in your body.”

For a personal example, I’ve been working with one of my kids about bullying other kids. And when she behaves that way, I will tell her, “What you’re doing is bullying,” or “Stop bullying them.”

What I WON’T say is “You’re being a bully.”

Because kids listen (even when we feel like they aren’t) and they are constantly taking in information that they use to define themselves. And the worst thing I could do in this situation is say, “You’re being a bully,” and they believe me.

It happens so often, it’s tragic. We tell kids, “You’re a bully,” “You’re dumb,” “You’re being obnoxious,” and they internalize that. And as soon as a kid accepts “I am a bully” as part of their identity, they will act accordingly.

On the flip side, I used to think it was OK to label kids with “being” statements as long as they were positive, but I’ve learned even that has hidden dangers.

For example, imagine one of my kids finishes a puzzle really quickly, and I respond by saying, “You’re so smart!” Seems great, right?

But what happens when they move on to a harder puzzle and they don’t finish as quickly? So they start thinking things like, “Dad said I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast. But I didn’t do this one fast so I guess I’m not smart after all.” Or, “Dad says I’m smart because I can do puzzles fast, but I didn’t do this one fast so it must be a stupid puzzle that’s made wrong.”

I guess my point is, use “you are” statements sparingly and carefully with kids. Tell them things like, “You are important,” “You are valuable,” “You are loved.” But when it comes to behavior, make it clear that what they do does not define who they are. Let them define themselves.

I DIDNT KNOW THIS POST COULD GET BETTER AND IT DID GUSBDID

academc:

AUG 22 2018 [TUES] — i finally started university and here’s me taking notes for my first set of college readings !!

sustainable-studies:

Neutral journal stack + self care Sunday setup ☕️

studyfleurr:

new bujo style ?? idk this feels more comfortable ?? i’m a mess lol

chaiinoir:

trying to finish up my summer reading assignment // david and goliath by malcolm gladwell

stillstudies:

A two-spread week! I tried to challenge myself this week by trying to journal everyday for a week straight which worked out pretty well aside from the weekend (I journaled 6/7 days straight, which is still a feat for me). I love journaling but I don’t think I’ve ever journaled this consistently before. I’m not sure if I want to continue this, but I will say that journaling everyday really makes you grateful for each day of your week and puts you in a healthy mindset.

Now Playing:

High Five- Sigrid

Anklebiters- Paramore

diaryofamathstudent:

JULY 10 - 2018

I’m ready to support Belgium! ⚽️ I had lunch with a close friend of mine ft. some notes of last year! ✨

( click on the pictures for hq )

diaryofamathstudent:

JULY 5 - 2018

I had a very nice day! I talked to my crush, learned to make some studyblr icons and watched some Netflix! ✨

( click on the pictures for hq )

iknowthis:

01.05.
my histology exam is tomorrow so I did some last minute revision at this cute coffee shop in my neighborhood. 🌿 also pictured: my study schedule, which I wasn’t able to stick to. I hope this works out anyway 🤞🏽